Saturday, June 24, 2017

Taking Back Your Story

Let's face it. You are going to spend most of your life being "old", according to the rules of the dominant paradigm. Especially if you are a woman. We are still generally considered "washed up" around age 35 in this culture. If you live into your 70s or 80s, well, that leaves 40 or 50 years of life. Are you going to live it "washed up" because society says so?

In this era of grotesque website sidebars that scream "They were beautiful in their 20s---now look what they look like!" and seem ever obsessed with celebrity boobs and physicality, it is clear the mainstream is still profoundly sexist and ageist. What to do?

Take back your own story.

By a circuitous internet route, I found myself on Cindy Joseph's website.

picture found here

She became famous for starting a modeling career at age 49. I remember the first time I saw her, I believe in a Sundance catalog, and I thought "holy crap, a woman with grey hair in a fashion catalog!". Now in her late 60s, she has a makeup/skincare line and a blog.. I looked through it. I was really struck by the simple way she stated a key point about how we tell stories about ourselves:

2- Re-draw your graph of life.
"You know, that one that’s in the shape of a mountain. Supposedly, life goes uphill until we hit this imaginary peak called “the prime of life,” and then it’s all downhill from there.
But who drew that picture? It certainly doesn’t match my experience or that of the women I know.
We just keep expanding! My graph of life feels more like an uphill journey all the way. So I re-drew my own picture. You can too."

Simple, but profound. When you automatically picture your life in the frame that bulk society provides for you, it's generally going to be disappointing. So change the frame, the graph, the map. For my own part, I don't identify with graphs or the whole "uphill" thing at all. My personal story map looks more like this:

Some people may not identify with any kind of "map" at all. Maybe they picture floating in the ocean. Flying through space. Whatever. It's your life.

How do YOU picture it?

Monday, May 29, 2017

Thrift Store Therapy---Ghost Hand, Crow, Long Dead Composers

Sometimes I'll thrift something I think I'm gonna sell---then I get home and realize I need to keep it, at least for a little while. So it went with this mid century Lefton hand ring dish. Pastel and floral, not really my style, but the hand is so elegant, and when I set it on my mantle with some other stuff, I realized what a great piece it really is:

I knew I'd be keeping this crow the moment I saw him:


Fabulous resin molded deer plate, I love these. 

Burwood famous composer busts

Mid Century famous composer busts made by Burwood. Along with Syroco and a few other companies, Burwood helped make the 60s-80s awesome with their plastic molded decorative wall art.
These guys are available in my shop.

Tuesday, May 23, 2017

Getting the Look---Baba Yaga, The Junk Lady, Joyce Byers


I came across the Maximum Middle Age blog when I was looking up the Junk Lady from Labyrinth. I could not believe it when I saw the fabulous "Get The Look---The Junk Lady From Labyrinth" post by Eve Vawter. Eve says:

"... the Junk Lady is such a badass heroine. She's not a tragic figure —  she loves her shit so much that she decides to keep it forever, and not just in her home, but on her freakin' back. There's something to be said for being stubborn and steadfast and saying "I'll get rid of my back issues of Cosmopolitan, but this mixtape I made in 1984? That shit's mine."

Further exploration revealed Get the Looks for Joyce Byer from Stranger Things, Mona "Hatchet Face" Malnorowski from Cry Baby, Maude, from Harold and Maude, Endora from Bewitched, and one of my faves, Baba Yaga. Jessica Jernigan says, in the Get the Look: Baba Yaga post:

"This is what the woman-in-the-know knows: We endure, even when youth passes. Beauty is only fleeting if we let others tell us what is beautiful. We make time our servant the moment we stop fearing it. In the dark places, we can make our own light. And our wisdom is a gift only for those with the courage to understand it."

This site has a lot of other great reads as well, on everything from fashion and pop culture to medical issues, to a domestic arts section featuring Hel(l)oise. Good, thoughtful, snarky and sometimes heartrending posts overall. It kind of looks like it has been several months since they have posted (I do see they have a facebook page) but, at the very least, one should hop over and check out the Get the Look posts under the Beauty Industrial Complex section. Which look do you wanna get?